But the word mend according to Dictonary.com means...
mend
–verb (used with object)
1. to make (something broken, worn, torn, or otherwise damaged) whole, sound, or usable by repairing: to mend old clothes; to mend a broken toy.
2. to remove or correct defects or errors in.
3. to set right; make better; improve: to mend matters.
It's kind of amazing that when two people desire to "mend" a relationship that it can't simply happen by wanting it to. It takes hard work, and understanding, and meeting halfway or 90% of the way at times. It's rarely 50/50...but it should always be close to that in my humble opinion.
The WANT must be present however, because wishing for something to be better simply because it's what you SHOULD do is like treading water in pudding. Impossible.
The closer I get to really truly wrapping my head around the fact that only I can be responsible for my happiness the closer I get to happy. The more I realize and accept that I cannot be responsible for my partner's happiness the closer I get again to happy. No amount of housework, or flowers, or childcare, or lawn mowing or trash taking out will make it better. Well maybe a little ;)
It's kind of amazing that when two people desire to "mend" a relationship that it can't simply happen by wanting it to. It takes hard work, and understanding, and meeting halfway or 90% of the way at times. It's rarely 50/50...but it should always be close to that in my humble opinion.
The WANT must be present however, because wishing for something to be better simply because it's what you SHOULD do is like treading water in pudding. Impossible.
The closer I get to really truly wrapping my head around the fact that only I can be responsible for my happiness the closer I get to happy. The more I realize and accept that I cannot be responsible for my partner's happiness the closer I get again to happy. No amount of housework, or flowers, or childcare, or lawn mowing or trash taking out will make it better. Well maybe a little ;)
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